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Some good points, I'll try to bear them in mind!

2008-07-24T04:21:00.000-07:00

Some good points, I'll try to bear them in mind!

Question from someone who came here from Greta Chr...

2008-07-22T22:50:00.000-07:00

Question from someone who came here from Greta Christina's place: who is this directed at? Officially, it's directed at writers of "smut," and is said to be written on behalf of an organization with "erotica" in the name, but contains sentences such as "throw out the idea what you’re writing something that’s supposed to get someone hard/wet" and "when you write a smut story you’re writing a story first, that it happens to be about sex is secondary." In my experience as a reader of fiction, there are sex scenes that (even if they play some other role in the story) clearly fall under the heading "supposed to get someone hard/wet," and succeed. And there are sex scenes that play a define role and aren't "supposed to get someone hard/wet," and stand very little chance of doing this for anyone. You seem to think that there's something wrong with this distinction--what's going on?

The S/M dynamic is independent of the D/S dynamic ...

2008-07-21T12:20:00.000-07:00

The S/M dynamic is independent of the D/S dynamic in a relationship. There are masochistic dominants and sadistic submissives out there, albeit fewer than you can find in the "traditional" roles.

It is fairly easy to see that ordinary people have problems grasping the beautiful emotional dynamic between a sadist and a masochist and revert back to an easier to understand relationship: the dynamic between a dominant and a submissive. It is just so easy for an outsider to assume that the one inflicting pain is dominant, and then infer that the recipient is submissive.

As a sadist, I too want to read stories that delve deeper into the pure masochistic and sadistic mindset, into a realm of emotional connection where power exchange is incidental or an after-thought. It means that commandment IX is close to my heart, I suppose, but I will print out the entire article for the day I work up enough courage to write the Next American S/M Novel.

I'm a masochist, and I hate that my partners assum...

2008-07-20T20:51:00.000-07:00

I'm a masochist, and I hate that my partners assume it automatically means I'm subservient. It's common in porn too; aren't there any more 'Venus in Furs' type stories out there? I for one would love to read about manipulative masochists. And this was a good article; I came here from Violet Blue. I'm going to check out the rest of this blog now.

I don't understand why an automatically subservien...

2008-07-18T16:02:00.000-07:00

I don't understand why an automatically subservient masochist is a myth. I am one.

Still, neat article. I have to say, I don't read much erotica, but if I ever do, I now have some evaluation points. :)

I think rule 8 is the one most new writers never b...

2008-07-18T11:51:00.000-07:00

I think rule 8 is the one most new writers never beleive. I wish people would frame and keep that rule by their desk because it is so very true.

I don't know who YOU'VE been with, but believe me,...

2008-07-17T13:13:00.000-07:00

I don't know who YOU'VE been with, but believe me, simultaneous orgasms aren't a myth. Someone else just said to me recently that she thought multiple orgasms were made up by Cosmo writers! Both simultaneous orgasms and multiple orgasms are features of couples who are graduates of "sex school" and have good control of their PC muscles and their abilities to let go at the right time (learning to meditate helps this).

Simultaneous orgasms between partners were the ideal at one point, but most real (and fictional) partners enjoy alternating, so they can watch, hear, smell, and taste their partners coming.

Other than that, you are right on with your observations and commentary. I started writing erotica in 1985, and I concur with you all the way. But just like some partners are better at it than others, some writers are bound to be better at writing about it than others! Viva la difference!